Tim Keller on obedience

This excerpt is from Tim Keller's "Jesus the King" that i borrowed a while back from a friend (Sarah, I have yet to get it to you, sorry!). I thought of friends who are dealing with suffering and those who have in the past and my family who has dealt with deaths and broken relationships. Tim Keller is amazing.
The Obedience of Love
"When the circumstances of life are giving you the desires of your heart, you're content. Suffering happens, we might say, when there's a gap between the desires of your heart and the circumstances of your life, and the bigger the gap, the greater the suffering. what do you do when that gap gets too wide? one response is to change the circumstances- to get off the path that's taking you into suffering. of course, sometimes this is the right response; our present circumstances may really have to change. there may be a very unhealthy relationship that needs to be ended or put on a different course, or a medical condition that needs to treated aggressively. we should not accept all circumstances with passive fatalism. many people have a pattern, however, of dealing with almost any suffering by getting out of town, breaking promises, pulling out of relationships. they invariably try to go someplace where their desires are satisfied, because they consider their desires all-important, which makes their circumstances negotiable. they are willing to do practically anything to avoid suffering. the problem is that life circumstances rarely oblige. try that new set of circumstances and in six months you'll need another set...
of course, there are times when we need to suppress our desires, because they're so often destructive, but to eliminate all desire is to eliminate our ability to love; and God made us to love.
when you look at Jesus here in the Garden of Gethsemane, he appears to be taking the first approach. he's certainly not taking the way of detachment; he's pouring his heart out. He's undone. and he's honestly and desperately asking God to change the circumstances...He's actually not taking his circumstances into his own hands. in the end, he's obeying- relinquishing control over his circumstances and submitting his desires to the will of the Father...often what seem to be our deepest desires are really just our loudest desires...Jesus is saying- I trust you no matter what i'm feeling right now. i know that your desires are ultimately my desires. do what we both know must be done-
and in so doing, Jesus is absolutely obedient to the will of God...Jesus is subordinating his loudest desires to his deepest desires by putting them in the Father's hands. as if to say- if the circumstances of life do not satisfy the present desires of my heart, i'm not going to suppress those desires, but i'm not going to surrender to them, either. i know that they will only be satisfied, eventually, in the Father. i will trust and obey him, put myself in his hands, and go forward-
in the midst of his suffering, he obeys for the love of the Father- and for the love of us.
and when you see that, instead of perpetually denying your desires or changing your circumstances, you'll be able to trust the Father in your suffering. you will be able to trust that because Jesus took the cup, your deepest desires and your actual circumstances are going to keep converging until they unite forever on the day of the eternal feast.
the love of Christ- whose obedience is wide and long and high and deep enough to dissolve a mountain of rightful wrath- is the love you've been looking for all your life. no family love, no friend love, no mother or spousal love, no romantic love- nothing could possibly satisfy you like that...all those other kinds of loves will let you down; this one never will."