summer is HERE

it is ridiculously hot outside. i am not a hot weather person. but hot weather also means summer...which means somewhat of "breaks"/vacation/relaxation/traveling, whatever word you associate with summer the most. for me this summer, the word i am associating with is TRAVEL. which i really am not going to be doing THAT much traveling, but my mom and i are planning to go to korea the end of june thru beginning of july! i can't begin to express how excited i am about going to south korea (where i was born) and while i am there- hopefully being able to visit the adoption agency office which i was adopted through and possibly meeting my foster mother/seeing my foster home. i have been in touch with the adoption agency office here in the united states, and the lady that has been helping me sent an insanely long email about my "file" and a little bit about my history and the history of adoption and family processes in south korea. i have been so excited that each time i email her back, i have more and more questions. but thinking about this trip is also emotional. the other night when i read the email from the lady, i cried...and cried. and not in a sad way, but in thinking about i will never see my birthmom/meet her or even get to know what she looks like. and i hope and pray she knows Jesus so i can meet her in heaven. i want to know so badly what she looks like. i have no desire for a relationship with her, not for any reason, other than the language barrier and how EXTREMELY hard that would be. but that tangible information of- what she looks like, her name, how many brothers/sisters she has, if she is married now/has a family, if i have blood-related siblings, who my father was, etc..- that information i will never have. and i just broke down and cried the other night thinking about all of that. as excited as i am about this trip, i know it will also be emotional and hard at times. but i am so grateful my mom is going with me, and she is such a good planner and trip planner. she would make a great travel agent. it also makes me thankful for where i am, and how the Lord's hand has been on my life since i was conceived. so planning and thinking about this trip has been wonderful and emotional all at the same time! i am excited too to get to see rachel & paul and see their lives in korea! grateful for a day of rest today & a long weekend...3 days of work! happy monday & bachelorette watching!

irony

this past weekend was a relaxing, family-filled time. i went to memphis thursday night and spent the weekend there..hanging out with the fam, michael w, and seeing friends last night. it seems like my blogging streak is about once a week now...oh well, i am trying to keep up but also enjoy my time off from school until june! i saw the avengers this past weekend...if you have not seen it, i highly recommend. SO good. robert downey jr is by far the best. oh, and thor...there are no words that describe thor. today, being mother's day, was chill. we usually just go out to eat for mother's/father's day. my dad had to work today after church so mom and i ended up going home and watching the grizz game. she is crazy about the grizzlies. she gets very into the games. i entitled this blog post "irony" because of the topic i am going to talk about. i have written about the book empty promises by pete wilson that my office is reading together. we talk about it on thursdays. well this thursday we talked about approval addiction...how our society is so wired for this. think about it- why do we tweet/post things on facebook/text/blog even? we want a reaction. we want people to "like" us. we want their stamp of approval or their response. why am i blogging right now? well, it is therapeutic and something i love, but i also get caught up in who reads this and do they actually care about what i am posting? same at work- why do i want people to like me- my patients/coworkers? why do i want my boss to think i do a good job? because to some extent or another i am addicted to people's approval. i have always seen myself as a people pleaser. it is hard for me to say no. it definitely upsets me when i think i have hurt someone's feelings or they are mad at me. i post things on facebook, because i want that immediate reaction. i tweet because i want a reaction. i text because i want that immediate response. in this bubble of a culture we are sucked into, we are all in some way addicted to this people approval notion. so what does our generation need to do about this problem- and yes i think of it as a problem. ultimately i think about what are we looking to to fill us? what are we looking to to satisfy our heart's longings? well i think first of all we have to recognize where we stumble in this...just the past few days, i have thought before texting/tweeting/facebook...i have thought before i do any of that, "why am i doing this"? i am AWARE of my faults and stumbling. so after awareness, i think we have to be intentional, just like with anything else we desire to change or do differently. even in relationships, we have to be conscious and considerate of the other person. it takes time. we have to be intentional about spending time with people these days. in my case, i have to look at my planner and my schedule and think about ok when can i be "intentional" with this person to go and hang out when we usually do not have the time to? our schedules are so filled. our phones keep us constantly connected with the outside world...email, facebook, twitter, texting, phone calls, music, videos, ETC!!! it is overwhelming! so the past few days although it has been a struggle, i have tried to be INTENTIONAL about putting my phone down and somewhat "disconnecting". i have been testing within myself if this is even possible! can i put my phone down when i am in a group of people and we are hanging out and not look at it for a few hours? am i really that approval addicted or addicted to being connected? it sickens me to think how much time i spend "connected" to the world and my selfish addictions and the time i could be spending with the Lord. convicting right? so i went to get ice cream with a friend friday and i put my phone in my car and put it on silent...trying so hard not to check it for 1 hour. success! in the group hang out last night for a friend's going away party, i put my phone in my purse...trying hard not to check. success! what was going on in my mind though- who texted me back? i can check it when i get in the car! i hope someone texted me! or called me! or posted on my facebook! i hope i hope! i am addicted. so this week my challenge for myself is disconnect (in moderation). i am not going to go all amish. but i am going to slow down this craving for "approval" or connection with people via my phone...and instead be intentional about relationships and spending time with people and being intentional about putting my phone away when i am with people. now when i am around people and now that i am AWARE of this, i can see how it is rude. it comes across as i am more interested in someone/something else than the time i am spending with you or other people. so this is ironic, because i am posting a blog post hoping people will read this...:) happy mother's day & new week!

Lists

So today I am relaxing and thankful it is Friday. I have a list of things I need to do today, starting with getting my car maintenance done- 50,000 miles. Yikes! I woke up this morning kind of feeling restless and thinking I have a lot to do, but realized I only have little errands here and there... No school work for 4 weeks...I get a short break! No work today. Fridays are good. Got a walk in this morning and enjoyed the warmth and breeze! Now that I'm at Nissan waiting on my car, I have a minute to relax...and blog. As an office, we are currently reading a book by Pete Wilson called empty promises. On Thursdays we meet as a staff and talk about it and how it pertains to the workplace and how our office functions as a Christ-focused place. It has been awesome...something that has definitely been an encouragement. I love this verse that Pete points out in one of his chapters about chasing after fulfillment and how only Jesus can satisfy. It is a verse I have heard my whole life, but the way I read it was different than I've read before. It is matt11:28-30 and says " come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest FOR YOUR SOULS. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." I love that picture. It is more than just earthly rest, it is rest for our deepest being. And with that eternal rest that comes through Christ, how could we NOT find rest in Him on this earth. I found that part of the verse striking. How awesome that we can approach him in confidence. I recently listened to a sermon by cole Huffman from first Evan, and he was talking about living our lives before him and in obedience...and how in the old testament the covenants were of the concept that if the people obeyed they were blessed...but how in this side of the cross we obey BECAUSE of blessings...we have been blessed through the death of Christ which spurs us to obedience. It isn't that it's reversed but it is a different dynamic/perception of the covenant since his death and resurrection. You should buy this book if you have time to read! It is so good. Happy Friday and weekend! Seeing Eric church tomorrow at the Bridgestone...definitely in Nashville and appreciating country music.

250 something days...

so...

call me addicted to running...or crazy...or determined... but i signed up for the marathon in memphis this december...250 something days away! i will hopefully have more than enough time for training! anyone want to join me in this venture?! have a schedule printed and everything... READY TO RUN. happy tuesday! school is almost done for me for the semester!!!! one final stands between me & a break. :)